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The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed | 
| Authors: Mystery, Lovedrop
Creator: Neil Strauss
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Category: Book
List Price: $19.95
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Rating:  163 reviews
Sales Rank: 563
Media: Hardcover
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 240
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.8
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.7 x 1.1
ISBN: 0312360118
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.77
EAN: 9780312360115
Publication Date: February 6, 2007
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Product Description
“One of the most admired men in the world of seduction” (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women
For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world’s greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world’s most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss’s New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
His tips include:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
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| Customer Reviews: Read 158 more reviews...
 Interesting view... difficult effectivity February 13, 2007
181 out of 237 found this review helpful
Certainly, the neatness & careful order of the pick up is fully explained in the so expected Mystery's book (there are many interesting observations and social dynamics views). However, having experienced it a few years ago by myself, and after coming up with my own way of seducinig women, which is more direct, simpler and more natural, I see this now as a very complex dating manual.
What I mean is that the 'venusian artist' (as Mystery calls) who really wants to improve his skills with the opposite sex will need lots of time, motivation, encouragement and willpower to keep going out 4 times a week to nightclubs as Mystery suggest, and keep approaching and entertaining groups and groups of people until he 'becomes good' (which still doesn't mean he will get laid). And let's be honest, most guys out there don't want to become a pick up entertaining machine. They just want to get their booty call once in a while.
People have been mating for millions of years without these kind of things and many great ladie's men have been enjoying their success without doing these kind of advices, actually by being more direct and persistent. The truth is that there's really no method, only what works for specific guys in specific places and time, with specific types of girls (actually it is called Mystery's for a reason). Obviously any shy and unskilled guy will become good at meeting women by going out a lot and becoming more social, it is no secret! Flirting is no rocket science, but if you still want to enjoy the 'game' as they call it, and want to explore the method for yourself, read the book and try it for yourself.
Just please don't become one of these guys who have spent thousand dollars on workshops, seminars, books and tapes and still don't get laid because they think they still need the 'ultimate secret formula'. There's none. The problem I see in mystery method is that the author has tried to make all this mating thing as a science and people get lost in the process instead of enjoying a normal interaction with the opposite sex ("Give me more routines. I need a new 'opener'. I still need to 'practice' my negs" etc. etc).
Whatever 'method' you use, it will work if you just grab your balls and talk to the women you are really attracted to. Just don't expect miracles of the 'I-Can-Get-Any-Girl' type. Some will want to have sex with you, some others not, no matter what you do. Just find out which ones are the willing ones to share orgasms with you. That's reality. Enjoy.
 Excellent, if dry March 8, 2007
161 out of 195 found this review helpful
You should read "The Game" by Neil Strauss first - Neil's book is a very entertaining read. This book is a textbook, pure and simple. The information is outstanding, but it's not meant to be entertaining, just informative. The book is not hard to understand at all, if you've read "The Game" first.
For those who say "Act naturally and practice, you don't need advice books", everyone can benefit from coaching. Even Michael Jordan acknowledged how coaches helped his basketball game.
In response to the reviewer that compained about PUA's manipulating females, women have men beat in the manipulation game by a country mile. Women manipulate to obtain money and resources for men, and there are entire industries devoted to it (women's magazines, clothing, makeup, plastic surgery, etc.). The PUA community is only an attempt to level the playing field.
Not just for pick up artists March 18, 2007
114 out of 121 found this review helpful
This short book is about being persuasive and asserting influence. If you peel away the title,though, it could be about marketing and closing any sale: don't be needy; be mentally able to walk away from any deal; understand the value of having a high social proof; invest others in you; develop a process, not a one liner. It has some good stuff about how our brains are wired and why. And, having read Strauss's book, I believe that Mystery and his method works for a PUA but it sounds like a lot of work, which maybe why he claims that there is only 4 to 10 hours between meeting and congress. The book is well written and makes good use of charts, although the bullet points are overdone---like apricot jam spread on toast, a little can go a long way. A book that anyone who persuades for a living should ,well, pick up.
Informative, but It won't make you happy... September 28, 2007
45 out of 51 found this review helpful
I'll start off saying that this book is worth reading because it will teach you about people, both men and women. Any book that is ranked #27 at amazon that is about THIS topic is obviously special. There are many books that promise guys sex with beautiful women, but few make it in the top 10000, let alone the top 100. What makes this one different?
I think because it explains how mating in human beings works in a progression and from an evolutionary psychology standpoint, while at the same time applying it to the bar/club/party scene.
The idea is this: High quality women look for high quality men. They won't have sex with you until they see you as high quality. This means you either have to actually BE high quality, or you have to give the illusion of being high quality. This book teaches you to mostly do the 2nd, not the 1st.
Peacocking, memorizing canned material, learning palm reading and magic tricks, pretending to have lots of friends and women, telling fictional stories as the truth, these things don't make you higher quality. They only create the illusion. This makes sense, after all, the author is a professional illusionist.
If you want a higher-quality woman LONG TERM, make yourself higher quality. This book mostly teaches you how to fake it long enough to get them into bed.
This method, if followed diligently and practiced A LOT, may get you in bed with some 10s. But it won't last because eventually the real you and the real her will surface and there will be no more game, just an awkward incompatibility.
I would much rather be with a 7 who is a good person, intelligent, and loyal, than a 10 who is spoiled, thinks the world owes her a living because of her beauty, and will soon cheat on you (and how could she not, she has male-10s offering her sex 24/7 - are you THAT great she would turn them all down?).
If you want sex in a relationship that will make you happy, it will probably be with someone who is about as good quality as you are. That is the only way you will both appreciate each other long term and stay loyal to each other.
 Bad Advice For Nice Guys August 10, 2007
42 out of 79 found this review helpful
I can't believe how many guys are buying this book or these books in general. The advice, like "negging" is horrible. If you're a nice guy trying to learn about women, please don't read this book. It will turn you into a creep that makes you walk around, talking about women as "targets" and rating them "7's", "8's" and other insulting numbers. The advice is sophmoric and insulting to women and really to men, too. There's nothing in this boring read that matters, like a discussion of timing or paying attention to women. It doesn't talk about anything except pushing a continuous approach. No matter what the woman says, no matter what she does, even if she's not interested, it tells you to just keep pushing. My friends and I have had guys bounced out of bars for not leaving us alone on more than one occassion. Some of them claimed to be pick-up artists. I didn't know what that meant until I read The Manual and God is a Woman: Dating Disasters and Amazon started pushing pick-up artist books on me because of those reads.
The problem with those "pua" guys wasn't that we didn't like them, at least at first; it was because they just ignored most of what we said and kept very obviously using techniques they had learned, like negging. It became very obvious very quickly that they weren't the least bit interested in us, just sex. I could have told them I was from the planet Xeron, here to eat human brains, and they wouldn't have even heard me, they were so busy working their "game." I asked one of them a question and he completely ignored me, instead deciding it was time to neg me. This is what he said about the mole on my cheek - "Some guys don't like a mark like that and consider it a disfigurement. I think it's sexy." Okay... what does that have to do with what I just asked??? Pay attention to me! When we asked them to go away because we were tired of them, they kept coming. We had them bounced.
This book is all about tricks. Do you really expect to get good advice from a guy who wears an ugly hat just so he can use it all the time to put on a woman's head in order to get her to follow him, if nothing else to return the hat? I'm not kidding, he does that! That's his advice! Ridiculous. I know he's had that hat thrown in his face, even if he doesn't admit to it.
Women want nice guys, we really do. Don't use tricks. Instead, learn to pay attention to us, find out if you really like us, and learn how to time your compliments - there's no reason to neg! If you want help and good advice, two really good books are God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters and The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate--and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top. They give advice to both men and women about getting comfortable with each other, not a bunch of worthless tricks. The author of 'God' wrote "get comfortable with women, not your game" in a recent ezine article and his book. That is the best advice you'll ever get.
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